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Shane Marston reviewed Quest Martial Arts Academy
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I have been training at Quest for 4 1/2 years and have learned a lot. I have met some awesome people and made great friends, all while learning how to defend myself and working on some important qualities I can apply to everyday life. I always have great time in class and learn something every class! It's a great school!

Allison Jordan Jean reviewed Quest Martial Arts Academy
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Quest martial art program is great at teaching my son about responsibility, respect and commitment. The instructors know each child personally, and work to highlight their individual strengths. They also push each kid to help them do their personal best and also encourage them to do better when they are giving less than 100%.

Shanna Randall Tsakiris reviewed Quest Martial Arts Academy
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Our son takes classes and has been for just shy of a year now. He really loves it. As parents we have instilled manners or try too anyway. Quest has helped cement those manners and we get compliments all the time on how polite and helpful out son is!
Would highly recommend Quest!

Wendi Granter McKeagney reviewed Quest Martial Arts Academy
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When we first signed our 4-year old up for Karate lessons with Quest Martial Arts, we weren't too sure if it was something that would interest him. But from the start, all of the sensei were wonderful and patient with him. They let me join in the class with him as he was a little shy, and halfway through, he didn’t even notice when I stepped out as he was having such a great time learning with the other students. He has grown leaps and bounds with his newfound skills, confidence, self-discipline, and respect of others! We have even caught him practicing his Karate skills in his room when no one else is there – including pushups! While looking at all the pictures on the Quest wall of past and current Black Belts, and said that one day, he’d have his picture up there too!

We were so impressed with the dojo that my husband and I decided to join as well. Our first class turned out to be a fitness test, so now we know that there’s only up from there! :) My husband and I have already seen improvement in our flexibility and endurance, and we’re having fun learning different weapon and self-defense skills. Everyone has made us feel welcome, and I encourage anyone of any background/ability/age, to come check them out. You’ll be glad you did!

Cassandra Patterson reviewed Quest Martial Arts Academy
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My karate journey at Quest Martial Arts began with a free women’s self-defense seminar. I was hooked after that and attended 2 more seminars before I actually enrolled. It is an incredibly positive environment that I like to call “my happy place”. The school focuses not only on the physical aspect but on your mental well- being also. All of the instructors are caring and patient so you immediately feel right at home. At 42 I didn’t see myself starting anything like this but now I can’t imagine my life without it.

Quest is my extended family. We challenge and encourage each other to better ourselves and we celebrate each other’s accomplishments. I was always involved in sports growing up but had not found anything to match that as an adult. I am definitely not into going to a gym which I attribute to the fact that there’s no one there to push me and hold me accountable. I think that is the case with many adults so karate is a perfect alternative in my mind. I have lost weight and become stronger both physically and mentally. I have more confidence and have proved to myself that I CAN do things that I thought I would never be able to do which is a great feeling. The school has taught me to believe in myself and my capabilities and has helped move me out of my comfort zone.

They often offer specials so you can try a few classes and see if it’s a good fit for you. I would recommend this school to anyone. They are currently offering a free Women’s Self Defense seminar January 27th so that’s a great place to start for all you ladies out there. That’s where my journey to a black belt began and I’m so glad it did.

Mandy Lyn Morales reviewed Quest Martial Arts Academy
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When our sons were 3, there wasn't a whole lot of activities for their age group, but we wanted to get them involved in something. Since we live in town, we had heard about Quest (all positive!) and decided to try it out. Our boys have a lot of energy and really needed something to help them focus and reinforce qualities taught at home, such as honesty and respect. Not knowing a great deal about the world of martial arts, I was a bit nervous and intimidated but as soon as they had their first class, the staff at Quest has made us feel incredibly comfortable and reassured us when we (and the boys) needed a bit more support. Our boys needed one of us to participate with them in class for several months and we always felt very supported. The program and staff at Quest are very professional and challenge our sons to be at their best! My mom and I also participated in one of the self-defense workshops which was so much fun! There's always extra happenings for the whole family too! We've really enjoyed our experience and the friends we've made. We look forward to many more! I highly recommend Quest Martial Arts!

Joann Knapp Toomey reviewed Quest Martial Arts Academy
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If I could, I would rate Quest Martial Arts a 10. I have been doing Karate here for 3 1/2 years now. Tomorrow I will turn 66 years old. Who would have thought I would be doing Karate at this age!
I was told by Master Nelson that you are never too old to start something new in your life. She is so right.
When I began, I was a bit concerned that I would feel out of place at my age. That was not possible. Everyone from the students to the professional staff, make you feel like family. Everyone is encouraging and wants to see each of us succeed.
I do fitness and Karate at least 2 times a week. In the over 3 years, I have built self esteem, strength, confidence and am off my blood pressure medicine. I look forward to coming and learning more about myself and this art form each week.
If you are looking to try something new in your life, no matter what age, Quest is the place to try it. Give them a call, you will not be sorry! Call or stop in today!

Joseph Sylvester reviewed Quest Martial Arts Academy
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The Sensei’s are a wonderful group of truly exceptionally people. They are caring, thoughtful and constantly seek to improve their methods to help train the students to be their best. This October will mark our son’s 10th year as a student at Quest Martial Arts Academy. Our middle daughter is in her 7th year. Our youngest has just started her martial arts training. I couldn’t be more proud of my children and I cannot be more grateful for the excellent staff at Quest. Thank you so much to all the wonderful people who have help shape our children in to the terrific young people they are. I look forward to watching my youngest grow and enjoy your program over the years to come.

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3 Ways to Build Authentic Confidence in your Child

Authentic confidence is quite different than external confidence!  Let’s examine both types of confidence.

External confidence is a perceived level of belief in yourself based upon what other people say about you. Examples of this type of confidence is when a parent or teacher provides praise.  It involves external forces attempting to instill confidence in other person.  The danger with external confidence is when the individuals who are trying to instill confidence in another person is not present.  When the teacher, mentor, or coach is not there in a challenging situation to cheer and encourage the individual to stand up for themselves or to overcome a challenge, the person feel confident enough to do it alone.  External confidence only works when the cheerleader, parents, teacher, or mentors are presence.  It is not felt internally.

On the other hand true authentic confidence is internal.  Authentic confidence is a feeling of self-assurance that comes from within. It’s not something you can fake or put on, but rather the natural result when all your strengths and attributes shine through in one cohesive package; this makes people want to be around us for who we really are – our true selves.  It comes from putting forth consistent effort, focus, and intention into becoming a better person. It is built, maintained, and enhanced through our own actions which allows us to become stronger physically, mentally, emotionally, and socially.  When we work hard to achieve a level of success, we start to believe in ourselves.

As you can see, authentic confidence is more powerful and last longer than external confidence.  Others can feel, see, and sense an authentically confident person versus someone with a surficial level of confidence.  People who feel confident in their own skin radiate an air of self-assurance that can be contagious. Authentic confidence is something all children need, but it’s especially important for those going through change or new experiences at school and home.

Here are 3 ways you may help your child develop authentic confidence:

1 – First and foremost, 98% of learning is observational learning.  As a parent, you must consistently model confident behavior.  This means you need to be aware of the way you speak, the way you act, and the way you respond to challenging situations.  Your child is watching you all the time!

2 – Ask rather than tell your child what to do.  Ask thought provoking questions such as “What do you think would happen next?”.  This teaches your child to be self-sufficient.  It teaches them to seek solutions to challenges rather than allowing them to feel like a victim.  Victims lack confidence.

3 – Gradually encourage them to step out of their comfort zones.  Teach your child that true growth comes not from being perfect or the best at everything. Parents must resist the urge to be a helicopter parent.  Helicopter parents focus on preparing a safe path for their children rather than allowing them to face challenges and obstacles.  As a parent, you must also be careful not to be snowplow parent who attempts to clean up after your child’s mistakes. Rather, as a parent you want to focus on helping your child develop an attitude that mistakes happen, and that you will not always succeed.  Teach your child to failure is your friend and reinforce what can be learned from it.  This helps your child develop a growth mindset and will have a positive impact on your child’s confidence.

As a parent, your goal is to help your child become self-sufficient, to be able to stand on their own two feet in your absence.  Some day they will be out on their own and will need these skills to be successful.  Take those 1st eighteen years of their life serious and help them prepare to become confident adults who will become a powerful force and who will make a positive difference in the world as a leader.